At the Lord Thompson Manor, we pride ourselves for our attention to all the thousands of little details that coalesce into impeccable weddings. One of our absolute favorite details is flowers. We can either work with a bride on her choice of arrangements or recommend an expert, but either way, beautiful flowers adorn our venue every weekend.
There are more factors that go into flower choice than many people realize. Color and fragrance are obviously important elements of a bloom’s decorative qualities, but a flower can also contribute a certain texture and symbolic meaning to an arrangement. In the Victorian Era and before, people crafted an entire subtle language of flowers, sending romantic messages to one another through bouquets.
That practice is outdated (and perhaps a little silly in the context of our modern times), but remnants of symbolic meaning can imbue a beautiful bouquet with a little extra love. Here are a four of the most popular flowers the Lord Thompson Manor sees at its weddings, and what they mean.
1. Rose. Roses come in a myriad of colors, but they always symbolize a connection between people. Red, white, pink and yellow roses signify the same concepts as wedding ceremonies themselves: love, unity, adoration, friendship, trust and faith.
2. Tulip. The tulip represents beauty, both literally and metaphysically. There are many colors, but wedding arrangements frequently include white, yellow or red tulips, which suggest honesty, hope and devotion.
3. Lily. Numerous species of lilies exist, and every one of them is elegant. Bridal bouquets and wedding arrangements often include white calla lilies, which typify beauty. White, yellow and tiger lilies also appear at the Lord Thompson Manor’s weddings with frequency, and they represent purity, profound happiness and success.
4. Hydrangea. Hydrangeas generally come in whites, greens, pinks, or bold blues and purples. They express appreciation and thankfulness, which our brides often find appropriate—hydrangeas can thank the bride and groom for their love and/or the guests for attending the wedding.
Every year, the Lord Thompson Manor collaborates with dozens of brides to create their flawless dream weddings. We see these women perform incredible mental gymnastics to prepare for the big day, not the least of which includes drawing up seating charts that will please every single one of their attending friends and relatives. We’re happy to be there for our brides, assisting them at every step of the process and minimizing their stressors; that’s why we love how our Keep It Simple Spa services pamper them from head to foot.
By the time a bride come to us, the hardest part of the wedding preparation process is over for her: everything is planned, and the Lord Thompson Manor will take care of it. It’s time for the wedding party to kick back, relax and enjoy their stay. Our capable KISS technicians give the bride and her bridesmaids professional manicures, pedicures and massages the day before the wedding, so they are ready to shine inside and out. The next day, our experienced technicians style the bride’s and her maids’ hair and apply their makeup. We find that our indulgent KISS services help calm those needless “is everything going right?” worries, relaxing the brain as much as the body. It’s just another way the Lord Thompson Manor helps maximize the quality of our brides’ dream weddings.
Generally, every Bridesmaid has an opinion on which color, fabric and style of dress would look best on her personally, and what compromises she would be willing to make to match her fellow attendants.Meanwhile, Wedding Party men often give the impression of ambivalence: “Put me in anything.”However, the Bridesmaids can prove helpful by voicing their attitudes, while their typically stoic counterparts can prove difficult to dress.With our years of experience in planning weddings, the Lord Thompson Manor has picked up some techniques for dressing the dapper Groomsmen.
Color coordination is the first key to a cohesive Wedding Party.If the Groomsmen are sporting vests and ties that are similar in color to the Bridesmaids’ dresses, but not quite the same, the difference may be hard to tell when they stand apart and glaringly obvious when they are closer together.Bringing a swatch of the fabric used in the Bridesmaids’ dresses, or even a complete dress itself, when picking out the Groomsmen’s garb can help match colors completely, or at least find aesthetically pleasing complementary shades.
Another important element to the perfect Groomsmen look is texture.If a man wears a three-piece suit in solid colors, he may look good, but the ensemble will give the overall effect of missing something.This gap can be filled by visually texturing the suit’s vest.Many of the Groomsmen at the Lord Thompson Manor sport vests the same color as the Bridesmaids’ dresses, but they balance out the Wedding Party with a masculine pattern.
At first glance, one might think that the Bride and her Bridesmaids are difficult to dress, where as the Groom and his Groomsmen are easy.After all, each Bridesmaid has an opinion on what color, fabric and style of dress would look best on her personally, and what compromises she would be willing to make to match her fellow attendants.Meanwhile, Wedding Party men often give the impression of ambivalence: “Put me in anything.”However, the Bridesmaids can prove helpful by voicing their attitudes, while their typically stoic counterparts can prove difficult to dress.At the Lord Thompson Manor, however,
Every kid’s dream is a vacation to Walt Disney world. However, parents may find it costly. Planning ahead on Disney vacations will allow you to make the most of your vacation in a cost-effective way.
Step 1:
Book your trip well ahead of time. When you book your date well in advance, you can get the rooms and the Disney vacation that you are looking for. There should be a two or three month timeline from when you book your travel arrangements to your dates of departure. Disney packages are different than others in that they will cost more as your departure date nears. Confirm your travel plans early for the best chance of saving big.
Step 2:
Choose the right time to travel. With any luck your Disney plans are fairly flexible. If possible you should try avoiding a Disney resort over major holidays (Christmas, New Years, July 4th, and Thanksgiving). The park is sure to be filled during that time, thus you’ll be charged extra for that period. If you can be easygoing with your travel dates, you could take advantage of Disney value rates. These are more affordable, providing travelers with motivation to take their trips in less busy periods. Try travelling during the off season and work your Disney vacations into your budget.
Step 3:
Make reservations at a Disney resort. Disney resorts are pretty cheap to stay at. It is all the additional extras that tax your wallet. Booking your hotel at a Disney resort can offer you many cost-effective benefits. If you stay in a hotel within the Disney park, you will make more efficient use of your travel time. Transportation is provided free from Disney hotels. Another advantage to booking your rooms at an actual Disney hotel is having a wider time range of access to the park. You can get on the shuttle earlier and beat the crowds in the morning traffic. If you are a Disney resort guest, you will have more time to enjoy the theme park.
Step 4:
Think about getting a meal plan. Food can be very expensive on a Disney vacation, so plan carefully. How about purchasing a meal plan at the Disney resort for the whole family – it’s better than starving just so you can make budget. You can try all the different eateries, including buffets and not worry about the bill later. Choose dining times wisely if you don’t want an inclusive meal. Getting lunch at a Disney park is cheaper than the dinners. If you want lunch in the park, do so but try to avoid dinner in the park. Items that don’t have the Disney logo on them will be cheaper.
Step 5:
Be clear about where you are going. It is obvious that Disney parks are enormous. There are too many things to see in only one day. Plan for this. Study the maps and break things down into manageable chunks. You can avoid the rush from one park to another when you split your park visit into a few days. The amount of stress that can be experienced on a hectic Disney vacation can be minimized by allowing plenty of time at the park.
Would you like to go on Holiday more with the same budget?
Would you like to soak up the sun more?
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Caribbean cruises should be on everyone’s list of vacations with tropical Caribbean islands, clear, clean beaches and of course a fun filled time on board the cruise liner.
If you think a cruise holiday in the Caribbean is assured to dent your budget, you couldn’t be further from the truth. Caribbean cruises are becoming gradually more reasonable, and offer superb value for money. In fact, a high end cruise liner is like an colossal floating world – with as many things to do, restaurants and rooms similar to some of the world’s best hotels. Pre selected for their exceptional itineraries and excellent value for money, these cruises will enable you to participate in a guided visit of the fascinating areas you vill visit whilst staying on board some of the most stylish cruise ships afloat. The major islands in the Caribbean include Aruba, Bahamas, Barbados, Bonaire, the Cayman Islands and Antigua.
So why not go on a Caribbean cruise, what a excellent holiday that would be. You could visit all the islands, like Jamaica and Barbados and the Bahamas, and Cuba. Maybe you have intended about a Caribbean cruise but just do not know what to expect. A cruise liner has all the amenities of a five star hotel and more!
Year round sunshine comes courtesy of the fantastic tropical climate, whilst turquoise waters lap gently on white sandy beaches fringed by lush tropical vegetation. This is the time a world of of us start dreaming of a Caribbean cruise. The holiday’s appeal is undeniable: Swaying palm trees, swaths of beach, turquoise waters, and top notch nightlife are just selected of the islands’ draws.
Strategies for Surviving Holiday Dinners, Family Events and Other War Zones
By Kevin Burk
No matter how well we may have weathered our basic training, nothing can fully prepare us for the front lines of family gatherings. We’re in the thick of it, dodging live ammunition, and fighting the urge to return to our old, reliable patterns that helped us to survive while we were growing up. We may have mastered our relationship skills in one-on-one relationships. We may have improved our romantic relationships, our professional relationships and our friendships. And we may have even improved our family relationships—one family member at a time. But when we’re sitting around the holiday dinner table or socializing at a wedding reception with our entire family, it’s an entirely different experience.
For one thing, when we’re with our entire family, we have to juggle a number of different relationships at the same time. Our attention is divided at best, and for many of us, our awareness deserts us completely after the first major skirmish. We feel like we’re surrounded and have to defend ourselves from sneak attacks. We often feel that retreat is not an option. When we are cornered, we often believe that the only way that we can survive is to fight our way out, new relationship skills be damned.
While most people assume that General Sherman was referring to the Civil War when he stated, “War is hell,” in fact, he was referring to a particularly memorable Thanksgiving dinner with his family. This also explains why he could send his troops into battle without a second thought, but that the very mention of cranberry sauce would reduce him to tears.
Bearing this in mind, here are some essential tips for surviving your next family gathering.
TIP #1: Go Easy On Yourself!
The first, and most important survival tip is to remember that navigating and surviving family gatherings takes exceptional skill and often quite a bit of practice. We will not be able to transform our entire family dynamic between the salad course and the pumpkin pie. In fact, we may not be able to change our family dynamic at all—and it’s important that we accept that we don’t need to. It’s not our responsibility to help our family members resolve their issues. We’re only responsible for resolving our responses to their issues. Our objective is to maintain our own safety and validation accounts, focus our awareness, and survive the family event reasonably unscathed.
However, maintaining our awareness while we’re relating to our families takes practice! We must go easy on ourselves. We may react when we would rather respond. We may be drawn into old arguments. Whatever happens, we need to accept that it is perfect. We are doing our best, and that’s all we can ever ask of ourselves. And remember that our awareness that we’re acting out an old pattern is, in itself, a change in that pattern! As we develop our awareness, we will spend less time caught in our old patterns. Over time, our awareness will help us to make lasting and permanent changes in those patterns.
Tip #2: Go Easy On Your Family
This piece of advice is equally as important as going easy on ourselves, but it’s often a bit more challenging to follow. Essentially, we must be willing to forgive our relatives for everything. We must be able to accept that they only ever did the best they could at any given time. We need to begin to recognize and relate to our families as people instead of as family members. We need to begin to know them for who they are, and not simply for who they are to us.
When we embrace the truth that even our family members are individualized aspects of All That Is, our relationships with our families will shift dramatically. Our family members are some of the most powerful teachers we will ever encounter in our lives. They also tend to be the most accurate and powerful mirrors for us, which, of course, is why we often find it so difficult to love and accept our family members unconditionally. In order to love our family members, we would also need to be able to love and accept ourselves.
Even so, we can love our family members unconditionally and still only choose to sit down to eat with them once a year.
Tip #3: Use The Bathroom As A Sanctuary When Needed
In our other relationships, we can usually recognize when we feel unsafe and move to a safe space so we can disengage our egos. Once we restore the balance in our safety account, we can return to the discussion and explore it without feeling threatened—and without threatening our partner in return. When we feel unsafe in our family relationships, however, many of us feel that we’re obligated to stay and fight. This is simply not the case.
When we are aware that we feel triggered by a family member, we can simply choose to excuse ourselves and visit the bathroom. The bathroom is the one place that we can be assured of our privacy, and we can stay there as long as we need to. We can use the bathroom as a sanctuary where we can regain our composure and gather our strength so that we feel safe enough to return to the battle. If any of our family members are indelicate enough to comment on how much time we seem to be spending in the bathroom, we can always plead an upset stomach or a weak bladder.
Tip #4: Lose The Battle To Win The War
We have to be very clear about our objectives in terms of our family relationships. If our ultimate goal is to improve our family relationships, we have to be willing to stay focused on the big picture. The most difficult lesson for most of us to accept is that in order to win the war, we have to be willing to lose the battle. Our long-term objective is to feel more safe and more validated in our family relationships. To reach this goal, we must help our family members to feel safe and validated. In order to do this, we must be absolutely clear that we are capable of meeting our own safety and validation needs.
We often experience our families as competitive environments. Our old blueprints tell us that there’s a limited amount of safety and validation available, and that we must compete with the other members of our family to meet our needs. We insult and snipe at each other because we can only feel safe and validated if the balance in our accounts is greater than the balance in everyone else’s accounts. The more we care about earning other people’s approval and validation, the more vulnerable we are. When one of our family members makes a comment designed to make us feel less valid, we do not need to defend ourselves. We can recognize that this person is asking to be validated, and we can validate them. Sometimes, this means letting them think that we are less successful, accomplished, and generally wonderful than we truly are.
We must be willing to lose every single family argument we encounter. Letting our family members win the argument allows them to feel safe and validated. As long as we remember that we create our own safety and validation, and we do not need to compete with our family members, we can lose the argument because it will help us to win the war. We must let our family members believe that they are right about whatever the issue is, no matter how blatantly wrong they actually are.
We know the truth. That will have to be enough for us.
Tip #5: Always, Ever, Never
If we want to relate to our family members as they are now and not as we remember them being in the past, we must eliminate three words from our vocabulary: always, ever and never. In the lexicon of family “discussions,” always, ever and never are relationship air-raid sirens. They signal that an attack has been launched and it’s time to duck and cover. Specifically, we must avoid some of our favorite statements in our family relationships such as, “You always behave this way,” “When have you ever supported me?” and “You never give me any credit.” If we find ourselves using any of these words in a similar context, it’s a red flag that we’re focused on the past and not on the present. Likewise, when our family members use these words about us, they’re relating to us as we were, not as we are.
Author: Beth Tabak
“The stress-free way to enjoy the holidays is to plan, take one step at a time, and have a sense of humor.” Beth Tabak
Can you feel the holiday jitters beginning? Suddenly there it is right around the corner. Relax! Take time to plan well today and ease into the holidays with a big smile. Grab your journal and pen, and let’s get started.
1- Reminisce over previous holidays- In your journal create two columns and label them What Works and Not That Again. Under What Works list activities that come naturally, bring you joy, and ease into place. Under Not That Again list challenges. Jot down energy draining activities that bring you down. What changes will you make to delegate, dump, or modify the items in the Not That Again column and embrace more of what is in the What Works column?
2- Choose a theme that motivates you- What is most important this holiday? Base your theme on that. If you want to cut out traveling consider “Home for the Holidays”. If your budget is tight ponder “Simply Sensational”. Your theme keeps you focused. One that honors your spirituality could be “Faith and Family First”. Or choose a favorite quote such as Mahatma Gandhi’s “Be the Change You Wish to see in the World”. Be creative, have fun, and write it down.
3- Set your top 4 priorities- Base them on what you really want which connects with your theme. Get crystal clear. Write them down. When you know your priorities you are able to respond easily to a request and set boundaries. When someone asks you to get involved look at your priorities and see if it serves them. If it does, consider it. If not, the answer is likely no.
4- Create a Map- If you took a big trip without planning you would likely get lost, waste time, and experience anxiety. It makes sense to plan at the holidays when so many areas of our lives are affected: time, energy, personal care, relationships, physical environment, and finances. Consider creating a task list thru the end of the year. It takes a block of time but saves time and stress. It will rescue you from running in circles, going back and forth to the same place, and trying to remember what is next. In the past I have had hundreds of items on my task list. No wonder we get stressed when we attempt to keep it in our heads.
Here’s a tool to help. Pick up a holiday task list at the website below or create your own. On your computer create a chart with 4 columns. Use your theme for the header. Under your theme list your priorities horizontally. Label the columns in a way that is helpful to you. I use Business, Personal, Holiday, and Need List. Use small font and minimal margin space to fit as many rows as possible. Print your map. List your tasks and add on as they come to you. Keep your map with you at all times. Schedule blocks of time to carry out the tasks. Have fun and build momentum as you make progress. Remember to save it for next year.
5- Simplify- Every task must be handled. You can do it, delegate it, or dump it. Eliminate what does not serve your priorities. What can you get help on? Get rid of those items on your Not That Again list. Hire out when possible. Ask guests to bring a dish instead of you doing it all. Get your family involved and remember that things do not have to be perfect. Let go! This will give you the freedom to embrace what you truly enjoy this season.
6- Set a budget- Develop a budget that feels good. There are lots of ways to have a special holiday without adding stress to the budget. Show people they are appreciated. Plan family fun and activities. Let someone know what is special about them in a card, letter, cassette, or video. Be creative. Hide gifts, wrap up boxes with little clues inside, and let the kids have a scavenger hunt. Don’t let a tight budget steal your joy. Make it fun and begin 2007 stress-free.
7- Set boundaries- Decide now what you will not tolerate. Write it down. Remember your Not That Again list? Is there someone who ropes you into things you don’t want to do? Have the conversation that is overdue. Be compassionate, and no is no. If someone keeps asking after you have said no they are trying to control you. Setting boundaries is about educating others on how they can treat you. Is there someone you need to educate?
8- Schedule time for planning and yourself- When is a good time to update your plan? When can you take time for you? Put it on your calendar each week thru the end of the year. Keep the appointments. Add this line to your day timer as a reminder: “I have an appointment in honor of myself this _________ (day) at __:__ (time) to do something special for me because I sooooooo deserve it!”
9- Give in a way that gives you joy vs. obligation- When you give in a way that comes naturally, you stay authentic to yourself. Thereby, you are able to share your own special gifts with others. When you are doing what you love, life clicks. If there is a situation you are dreading, think about how you can tweak it to handle it in a way that would bring you more joy.
10- Take action now- Begin today so that you are tying up your last bows well before the pitter patter of hoofs on the rooftop. Keep your holiday journal and map close at hand. The sooner you complete your tasks, the sooner you can prop your feet up, sip your favorite hot beverage, and enjoy the atmosphere you created this season!
What I want for you is to take the first step…Starting Now!
Author: Harry Lawrance
If you have been saving up for months and spent time planning and preparing for your holidays and a precious couple of weeks in the sun, the last thing you want is to have your holiday ruined by illness.
It makes sense to make preparations and take precautions while you are on holiday to ensure you remember your holidays for all the right reasons.
Before you leave for your holiday
Vaccines – You should do a little research into your holiday destination and check if you will require any vaccinations for your trip. If you are required to have vaccines, these may need to be administered several weeks before you leave.
Insurance – You should ensure you have taken out adequate holiday insurance before you leave to cover any medical bills you may incur in the event of an emergency.
First aid – It is a good idea to always pack a small first aid kit to take on holiday with you, as this could prove invaluable in a minor medical emergency. This kit should include a minimum of antiseptic cream, dressings and plasters for small cuts and grazes, paracetamol or another painkiller, antihistamines for treating mild allergic reactions, eyewash, tweezers, rehydration solution and travel sickness pills.
Medicines – If you are taking any prescription medicines then pack these in your hand luggage along with the prescription and a doctor’s letter. In addition to this, make sure the medicine is legal in the country of your holiday destination.
While on holiday
Food and drink – For many of us trying new foods and eating well is part of the fun in a holiday abroad. But you should always exercise caution as hygiene standards may not be as high as you are used to.
Avoid purchasing food from any stalls where dishes may have been out in the sun all day. Always check that seafood and meat has been properly cooked before eating and don’t drink the tap water unless you are certain it is safe to do so. If you are in any doubt you should stick to drinking bottled water and remember to avoid ice cubes, as they may have been made using the local water.
Out in the sun – Again, the sun is one of the main reasons for going abroad on holiday for many, but it is important to be sensible. Avoid being out in direct sunlight during the hottest hours of the day between 11am and 3pm.
Over-exposure can lead to sunburn and heat stroke. Sunburn can be extremely painful and a sufficiently high factor sunscreen should be applied regularly throughout the day particularly after swimming. You should also keep hydrated throughout the day by drinking plenty of water regularly.
